nursery – Jo Ind https://joind.co.uk Writer, digital media producer, learning designer Sat, 11 Feb 2017 08:31:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.2 https://joind.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/cropped-Flavicon-Jo-32x32.png nursery – Jo Ind https://joind.co.uk 32 32 First day at school https://joind.co.uk/first-day-at-school/ https://joind.co.uk/first-day-at-school/#comments Wed, 15 Sep 2010 10:26:17 +0000 http://joind.co.uk/?p=574 There were tears, of course, when Arch had his first day at school – and they were all mine.

They started on Friday when I dropped him off at nursery for his last day there. I came home and wept those kind of from-the-belly tears that go on for a long time.

I cried

I only cried a little bit when I saw him in his school uniform for the first time on Monday morning and then a bit more when a friend sent me a photograph and some apposite words about the love being in the letting go.

I cried remembering his first day at nursery, his first night in a cot, his first solids, the time I bagged up his 0 – 3 month baby-gros and put them in the loft.

I cried remembering the two of us being in hospital. Me – battered, bruised, bloated, iron-deficient, utterly exhausted, on a drip, using a catheter, unable to move from the chest down. Arch – exquisite, opening his mouth, like a fish needing food, and searching for my tender, aching breast, not knowing what to do with it when he found it.

I cried remembering that primal urge, as fierce as a tiger.

It never goes.

The grief gets hidden

The grief gets hidden as we go about our day to day business, but these rites of passage, these separations and letting-gos, bring it to the forefront of consciousness.

It won’t get any easier. I will be crying again when Arch leaves primary school, when he leaves secondary school, when he leaves home… He will look like a young man. I will look like a woman in my late 50s.

But I will be that fluid-filled bag of a mum on morphine in hospital wincing with pain as I try yet again to get my red swollen nipple in that tiny toothless mouth.

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